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An Obituary For the Living: A Letter to My Mother and All the Black Women & Girls Society Forgot
Originally published March 24th, 2023. Dear Mother, I’ve started this letter a thousand times and still, the words escape me. I saw a...

Rayven Holmes
Jun 21, 20234 min read


Seasons of Life
Originally published March 12th, 2023. With age, certain things become easier to see, like the way our lives move in seasons. Those...

Rayven Holmes
Jun 21, 20238 min read


Healing Ain't Pretty
Originally published March 10th, 2023. Healing ain’t pretty. It forces us to take an honest look at where we’ve been and where we wish to...

Rayven Holmes
Jun 21, 20231 min read


Gray Matter Revisited
Originally published February 22nd, 2023. Five years ago I sat in a hospital room gazing upon the body that brought me into this world as...

Rayven Holmes
Jun 21, 20234 min read


In Defense of Valentine's Day
Originally published February 14th, 2023. Hallmark commercials, overpriced red roses, and blood diamonds for days. Our ideas of...

Rayven Holmes
Jun 21, 20234 min read


Religious Discernment: Reflections from a Black Woman Moving Through UU Spaces
This essay was written in 2022 for the Renaissance Credentialing Program, a training program provided by the Unitarian Universalist...

Rayven Holmes
Jun 21, 20236 min read


Gold From Pain
Originally published January 26th, 2023. In addition to this being a year of no for me, it’s also a year for examining my proximity to...

Rayven Holmes
Jun 21, 20236 min read


Exclusive Feminism: Leaning In and On White Privilege
This piece was originally written in December 2015 and never published on my blog. Since penning this in 2015, I’ve spent time exploring...

Rayven Holmes
Jun 21, 20234 min read


The Myth of Perfect
This article was originally published on Ramblings of a Dysfunctional Homeschooler in 2015. Previous pieces from that blog will be...

Rayven Holmes
Jun 21, 20234 min read


The Year of No
Originally published January 10th, 2023. Hello old friend, did you miss me? I can’t say with certainty that I missed you - elements of...

Rayven Holmes
Jun 21, 20233 min read


Juneteenth and You: How to Navigate the Holiday When You're Not Black
Originally published June 19th, 2020. I get questions from time to time about all sorts of things. How to manage single parenting and...

Rayven Holmes
Jun 21, 20233 min read


Free To Be You and Me
Originally published June 11th, 2019. Once upon a time there was a prom and a personal determination to look phenomenal while being...

Rayven Holmes
Jun 21, 20234 min read


Oops I Did It Again
Originally published May 1st, 2019 Second weddings are strange. From debating on if you can wear white, obviously, the virginal jig is...

Rayven Holmes
Jun 21, 20233 min read


All Night
Originally published April 25th, 2019 Lemonade. An album that became a cultural phenomenon and changed the game. I’m not a music...

Rayven Holmes
Jun 21, 20232 min read


Godless Parenting and Divorce
Originally published March 8th, 2019 Divorce is rarely easy, but it is often necessary. When I announced The Ex and I were splitting it...

Rayven Holmes
Jun 21, 20233 min read


The Feast of Life
Originally published March 1st, 2019. I was going to start this by saying it’s been a while but apparently, it’s only been about a month...

Rayven Holmes
Jun 21, 20237 min read


The Recanted Resignation of a Mother
Originally published January 8th, 2019. Motherhood is exhausting. It is a never-ending cycle of caring for other humans. Humans who go...

Rayven Holmes
Jun 21, 20234 min read


The Slate is Never Clean
Originally published November 10th, 2018. “Sometimes the hardest part isn’t letting go but rather learning to start over.”– Nicole Sobon...

Rayven Holmes
Jun 21, 20234 min read


A Bitch For All Seasons
Originally published October 24th, 2018. “A bitch is what they call a woman when she no longer has the patience to deal with the...

Rayven Holmes
Jun 21, 20234 min read


Fuck a Black Out, Make Some Damn Noise
Originally published September 30th, 2018. In response to another day in the patriarchy, women have taken to changing their profile...

Rayven Holmes
Jun 21, 20233 min read
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